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I am a self motivated, independent female looking for answers. Aren't we all.

Monday, April 24, 2006

Impact

Recently there has been much turmoil in my life as well as the people I love the most. Somedays it seems like it is overwhelming and I forget to look at a bigger picture than what I see in front of me. I recieved an e mail from my mother. It made me stop and take notice. It was truly touching. I thought for this blog I would share it with you. If you have read it before, I find it is worth reading again. Each time I find something else to learn. I hope it touches your heart and heals part of your soul. I know it has mine.



Jean Thompson stood in front of her fifth-grade class on the very first day of school in the fall and told the children a lie. Like most teachers, she looked at her pupils and said that she loved them all the same, that she would treat them all alike. But that was impossible, because there, in front of her, slumped in his seat in the third row, was a little black boy name Teddy Stoddard.
Mrs. Thompson had watched Teddy the year before and had noticed that he didn't play well with the other children, that his clothes were unkempt and that he constantly needed a bath. And Teddy was unpleasant. It got to the point during the first few months that she would actually take delight in marking his papers with a broad red pen, making bold X's and making the fat "F" at the top of the paper.
Because Teddy was a sullen little boy, no one else seemed to enjoy him either.
At the school where Mrs. Thompson taught, she was required to review each child's records. She put Teddy's off until last. When she opened his file, she was very surprised.
His first-grade teacher wrote, "Teddy is a bright, inquisitive child with a ready laugh. He does his work neatly and has good manners...he is a joy to be around."
His second-grade teacher wrote, "Teddy is an excellent student well-liked by his classmates, but is troubled because his mother has a terminal illness, and life at home must be a struggle."
His third-grade teacher wrote, "Teddy continues to work hard, but his mother's death has been hard on him. He tries to do his best, but his father doesn't show much interest, and his home life will soon affect him if some steps aren't taken."
Teddy's fourth-grade teacher wrote, "Teddy is withdrawn and doesn't show much interest in school. He doesn't have many friends and sometimes sleeps in class. He is tardy and could become a problem."
By now, Mrs. Thompson realized the problem, but Christmas was coming soon. The school play and other things kept her busy until the day before the holidays began. Then, suddenly, she was forced to focus on Teddy Stoddard.
Her fifth-graders brought her presents -- all with beautiful ribbons and bright paper, except for Teddy's, which was clumsily wrapped in the heavy brown paper of a cut-up grocery bag.
Mrs. Thompson took pains to open it in the middle of the other presents. Some of the children started to laugh when she found a rhinestone bracelet, with some of the stones missing, and a bottle that was one-quarter full of cologne. She stifled the children's laughter when she exclaimed how pretty the bracelet was, putting it on, and dabbing some of the perfume behind the other wrist.
Teddy Stoddard stayed behind just long enough to say, "Mrs. Thompson, today you smelled just like my mom used to." After the children left, she cried for at least an hour.
On that very day, she quit teaching reading, writing, and speaking. Instead, she began to teach children.
Jean Thompson paid particular attention to the one they called "Teddy." As she worked with him, his mind seemed to come alive. The more she encouraged him, the faster he responded. On days when important tests were given, she would remember that cologne. By the end of the year, he had become one of the smartest children in the class -- and the "pet" of the teacher who had once vowed to love all her children exactly the same.
A year later, she found a note under her door, from Teddy, telling her that of all the teachers he'd had in elementary school, she was his favorite.
Six years went by before she got another note from Teddy. He then wrote that he had finished high school, third in his class, and she was still his favorite teacher of all time.
Four years after that, she got another letter, saying that while things had been tough at times, he'd stayed in school, had stuck with it, and would graduate from college with the highest honors. He assured her that she was still his favorite teacher.
Then four more years passes, and yet another letter came. This time, he explained that after he had gotten his bachelor's degree. He had decided to go a little further. The letter explained that she was still his favorite teacher but that now his name was a little longer. The letter was signed, Theodore F. Stoddard, M.D.
That's not the end. There was still another letter that Spring. Teddy said that he'd met a girl and would soon marry her. He explained that his father had died a couple of years ago and he was wondering... would Mrs. Thompson agree to sit in the pew usually reserved for the mother of the groom? She did, and she wore the bracelet that was missing several rhinestones. Moreover, she made sure she was wearing the perfume that Teddy had given her. And maybe, just maybe, she smelled just like... the way Teddy remembered his mother smelled on their last Christmas together.
They hugged each other, and Dr. Stoddard whispered in Mrs. Thompson's ear, "Thank you Mrs. Thompson for believing in me. Thank you so much for making me feel important and showing me that I could make a difference. Mrs. Thompson, with tears in her eyes, whispered back. She said, "Teddy, you have it all wrong. You were the one who taught me that I could make a difference. I didn't know how to teach until I met you."
(For you that don't know, Teddy Stoddard is the doctor at Iowa Methodist in Des Moines that has the Stoddard Cancer Wing).



May all your days be blessed and may you be one of those people who change someones life.

Friday, April 14, 2006

Toilet Paper

My blogs as of late have been a bit serious. Well not this one. I am blogging about toilet paper. When I was younger and lived with my parents I never really thought about it. It was there when I needed it. Then I got rid of it. Now it is HUGE, especialy when you don't have any. I really never noticed how much of the stuff I actually go through. When purchasing it the decisions are nerve wrecking. I stand in the isle at Wal- Mart looking at the selections. Do you get single roll, double roll, triple roll, the kind with aloe, 1 ply, two ply,quilted? Its is awful and expensive if you get the good stuff-- Charmin (my favorite). I am also having issues with public restrooms and their toilet paper. It feels like sand paper and you have to use 1,000 sheets to make sure things get done properly. I thought I was the only one with this issue until I watched a comedy special last week. It was Ellen's new special and it was soooooo funny. She hit on the topic of public restrooms and toilet paper. If you get a chance to watch I highly recommend it. I once dated a man that seemed to hate to purchase the stuff. Everytime I went to his home there was very little or none at all. I had to resort to napkins from fast food restaurants. Now let a corner of one of those get you in the right place and we are talking paper cut from hell. YIPES!!! Sometimes he was nice and brought a bit home from work (public restroom TP). I just got to where when I went out I bought some. On the other hand my mother thinks we are going to have a toilet paper famine in the near future. There are 2 people who live in their house and she buys the 36 double rolls. I know you get it a bit cheaper that way, but there is a limit on how much 2 people really need to purchase at one time...lol. Well to all those out there I hope your TP shopping experiences go well and you never have to suffer a pussy papercut. Love ya.

Wednesday, April 12, 2006

Back to the Basics

The party is over! As everyone well knows I had been planning a big surprise party for my mom. If you have ever met my mother you know how she is. If you have not then I must let you know. My mother is the kind of person that always is one step ahead of you. You can never get one over on her. If my dad bought her something special for Christmas he stopped wrapping it and placing it under the tree. She always knew what was in the box. One Christmas I put a ring in a huge box and filled the box with odds and ends from the house to weight it down. She still guessed. April Fool's jokes were a waist on her. Therefore planning a huge surprise party for her was stressing me out. I just knew she would figure it outbefore the party. So I went to extreme measures. The week prior to the event she said something to me that was a bit upsetting. I was over it in a few hours. I let her think I was still upset with her. Lets just say she was very surprised. We finally got her!!!! It was a lot of work, but went very well. Thanks to the people who helped out. You know who you are.

Now that the party is over I thought things would settle down. Nope. No rest for the wicked..hee hee hee. I am busy putting in some extra hours at work. Have you ever been completely unfufilled with your life? I shouldn't complain. I am much luckier than a lot of people. I have a home, a job, friends, family. Its just that there is something missing. Empty. I have started praying more. I am trying to be more spiritual. Not into religion itself but spiritual. One of my favorite songs right now is " I believe" by Brooks and Dunn. Maybe getting back to the basics will lead me to fill the emptiness.

I am a natural born worrier. Right now I am not only concerned about my family, but my friends as well. It seems that everyone has something going on at the same time. Used to be we would have a crisis or and issue and the others were right there. Now , we all have issues and crisis.... it makes the gatherings more interesting. All I can say is CHEESECAKE!!!!

Back to the Basics

Friday, April 07, 2006

Sick and the Party

Have you ever noticed when you are sick people tend to blow it off. They may ask "whats wrong", but once you have listed the ailments or disease you get the proverbial "oh" or "well I hope you feel better". Then they expext you to act and behave as you normally do when you are well. I am not saying everyone should act like your mom did when you were sick and 3, but they should expect a slow down, a change of moods and decreased intrest in outside goings on. Is a little common courtesy for the ill too much to ask? Don't get flustered when they snap, refuse to do something or go somewhere. Hey be a pal. Tell them to get some rest so they can get better, improve their mood and their desire to kick up their heels.


As everyone knows I have been very busy trying to plan a surprise party for my mom. It became a bit more complicated this week when I came down with the creepy crud. It took away my voice as well as any iota of energy I may have had. My friends have been running around with me to get ready and I appreciate all their help. One in particular is off work today and doing last minute shopping while the rest of us work. Thank goodness. It is coming together fairly well I just regret that I had to stop the party train for antibiotics and Nyquil..lol. Since the train is full steam ahead I hope the combinations of pharmacuticals keep me on board. I would sure hate to fall off..lol. I like nothing better than a good party and the one me adn my friends throw are great. Hey why wouldn't they be... food, music, drink ( yep even a little alcohol) and your best buds make for and excellent evening if I must say. I will have to let everyone know how it goes. For those who have assisted Thanks. Hugs and Kisses.