Moving On.... Part 2
As most of you read I went our this weekend with some of my closest friends. Friday was a great night. Thanks for dinner Countrymusic Fan. Saturday was interesting but still a good time was had. Sunday I had to go into work. Thank goodness I don't have hangovers. After work I went up to the hospital to visit my dad. I left the hospital and noticed I had some missed calls on my cell. I returned the calls.
Just a little history lesson. Redneckgirl and I have been friends since birth, well her birth anyway. I have known Musctagscarlett since the 6 the grade and I met Mindtwister when I was 20. Countrymusic fan and I dated for a couple years and then parted company but decided to remain friends. It was very hard for me at first because I loved him but as time went on I moved on to other relationships and other men. He his been with the same woman since 2 weeks after our split. No big deal right? We are friends now.
It seems now after we have been split for over 2 years there is a problem. One of the returned calls was to him. We talked about our day and whatnot. Then I was told, " Don't call me anymore in the forseeable future." Needless to say I was shocked at first. He repeated it as if I didn't hear it the first time and proceeded to tell me it was not because he was mad at me and I had not done anything. He was tired of listening to his current girfirend sh*t. At this point I finally gave up. I told him to have a good one, and said goodbye. Just to let you know. Good bye Country Music fan. I am not dumb, I am not going to beg for anyones friendship, especially a man who is so disrespectful he can not tell the woman he claims to love that he has FRIENDS. So disrespectful to me and his current love that he tries to FU*K my best friend at every opportunity and gets mad when he sees her happy with another. We can not choose who we love by the way. At one time I loved him and would have given everything up to be with him. He claimed he was my friend but I think her really needs to learn what a real friend is. I will always have a space in my heart for him even if I can't have a space in my life. God bless and Good Luck Countrymusic fan.
Just a little history lesson. Redneckgirl and I have been friends since birth, well her birth anyway. I have known Musctagscarlett since the 6 the grade and I met Mindtwister when I was 20. Countrymusic fan and I dated for a couple years and then parted company but decided to remain friends. It was very hard for me at first because I loved him but as time went on I moved on to other relationships and other men. He his been with the same woman since 2 weeks after our split. No big deal right? We are friends now.
It seems now after we have been split for over 2 years there is a problem. One of the returned calls was to him. We talked about our day and whatnot. Then I was told, " Don't call me anymore in the forseeable future." Needless to say I was shocked at first. He repeated it as if I didn't hear it the first time and proceeded to tell me it was not because he was mad at me and I had not done anything. He was tired of listening to his current girfirend sh*t. At this point I finally gave up. I told him to have a good one, and said goodbye. Just to let you know. Good bye Country Music fan. I am not dumb, I am not going to beg for anyones friendship, especially a man who is so disrespectful he can not tell the woman he claims to love that he has FRIENDS. So disrespectful to me and his current love that he tries to FU*K my best friend at every opportunity and gets mad when he sees her happy with another. We can not choose who we love by the way. At one time I loved him and would have given everything up to be with him. He claimed he was my friend but I think her really needs to learn what a real friend is. I will always have a space in my heart for him even if I can't have a space in my life. God bless and Good Luck Countrymusic fan.
posted by hard2stop @ 10:02 AM
9 Comments:
At 5:41 AM,
hard2stop said…
I think my best response would be best done in private CMF (sent you an e mail). Did not get an e mail from you though.
At 8:44 AM,
RedNeckGirl said…
I think that this is one of those times that all good things must come to an end.....I am sorry that you have to go through this but it's obvious that you all don't see your friendship the same way. You have always been a wonderful friend to me and all our other friends. I suggest putting the space between you all before you both end up hurting eachother more.
CMF,
1) Your KY friends never meant to be a "problem" for you, we only wanted to be here for you and care about you as a friend and I am sorry that your g-friend doesn't understand.
2) I know that you don't approve of my relationship with Mindtwister and although I appreciate all my friends' opinions in the end I have to do what is best for me.....he loves me, treats me better than any man ever has and he makes me happy. I love him and those who truly care about me know that despite any opposition I will do what I think is best for me, my kids, my family and my friends.
3) As I told H2S i think the best thing for you all to do is put the space between you all before the memories that you share are all negative. I will miss you but as You said this is something that "has" to be done.
At 9:25 AM,
hard2stop said…
Thanks for the comments RNG and CMF. I have already responded to CMF.
RNG- I have alwas tried to be the best friend I can depending on the circumstances. Being there for the people I care about is one of my top priorities. Love you girl.
At 11:22 AM,
mindtwister said…
As you know, I wasn't there Friday night, but Saturday was fun. I loved the look on your face when I was giving you your lap dance ;)
You and redneckgirl go back to birth, as you both keep reminding me...lol! As far as the relationship with countrymusicfan goes, we all know it wasn't your fault it didn't work out. Wild hearts never rest. Now, I would imagine you were friends, but I've seen some very odd things that suggest otherwise from him.
This is one major thing that is wrong. If he had told her about you guys, why is it such a problem now after 2 years of being apart. I know that most people can't, don't and won't remain friends after they break up, but everyone thought he was a different person. Nuff said about that! I know that not only is it downright wrong to tell you not to call him, but it's a very dirty thing for someone to do to another person. To be honest, and you know I am, I don't think he even cares about you at all. Did he hug you goodbye when we dropped him off Saturday night? No. I haven't seen a caring look in your direction from him in quite some time. Not Saturday and not at Derby either.
I agree with redneckgirl on this. It is probably for the best.
You shouldn't have to be a dirty little secret as a friend, and you should never have to beg for anyone's friendship. I know we have had many, many differences of opinion in the past, but I overlook all that, as I'm sure you do and see the good person inside. I know you are a good person and I do consider you a good friend, even if I don't always act like it. Like redneckgirl, I will be there for you if and when you need me.
You and I have had a few conversations on this subject in the past. I'm only going to say that I knew what he was trying to do for a long time now. I really didn't put up too much of a fuss because I know he has no chance in hell of being with her in that way, or any other way other than a friend. Trying to f*ck your ex girlfriends best friend is extremely disrespectful. I thought he was my friend too, but he soon showed me that I was wrong. The only mistake I ever made with him was thinking that he was a friend to me. Through all the fake smiles and him saying how great of a guy I was for redneckgirl and how good a person I was, he has shown his true intentions, and they have been shot down. I wonder if he really did think all of that before, what had changed about me and the way I treat her that made him change his mind? Interseting thing to think about I say.
I saw the anger in his eyes on Saturday, and I saw the daggers headed my way when he glanced over at me. They don't bother me. He doesn't bother me.
I truly don't think he can learn what a true friend is. He doesn't have it in him to sacrifice or to care more about someone else other than himself. If he could, this whole thing about f*cking your best friend would have never seen the light of day.
I'm sorry you had to go through what he has put you through with his uncaring ways. You really do deserve better than that.
At 11:42 AM,
mindtwister said…
CMF,
I think it is her right to air any grievances she has in whichever format she chooses. I seem to recall you had an issue with the way I was doing the same thing, and you said something, and got told what you needed to do.
No, friends of the opposite sex do not become a potential problem after 2 years. I don't know what kind of bullshit you are trying to feed her here, but believe me, I know it isn't true. You don't just suddenly start having a problem with someone like that.
Now, given you may not have actually "tried", but I've known of your desire to for a very long time. Please save yourself from having to type out some bullshit to deny it. I can see it. As far as jealousy goes, why would she be jealous if you weren't trying to do anything? Why the sudden hatred of me, and thinking that redneckgirl can do MUCH better when you stated the opposite before? Could it be that now that you want her that you think you're better than me? You need to deal with the fact that she doesn't want anything more than friendship from you and leave it at that.
Finally you say something right. It "is" her choice, and in that aspect alone, your opinion doesn't count for anything. I could care less who you think she should and shouldn't be with, because I've tried my best to make her as happy as she is, and I will always be there trying to make her happy, and make sure she knows beyond a shadow of a doubt that she is loved. She is very happy with me, and I intend on keeping her that way, because I "know" how lucky I am to have her in my life that way.
I don't believe that you are sorry for upsetting hard2stop. I believe that you are sorry that she caught on to what it is you really want.
I think you are a snake in the grass, and I believe you will get what you truly deserve.
At 11:54 AM,
hard2stop said…
Mindtwister tell me how you really feel...lol. As for the lap dance, priceless. I am unable to answer some of the questions you posed. I think only one can do that and I am not that person. Thanks for the comments though.
At 1:45 PM,
mindtwister said…
Like I said before, we may not always see eye to eye on things, but at least we both know who our friends are. I am happy to be able to call you my friend.
You are right though. Those questions were not of the sort that anyone but one person could answer.
Hope you had a good day and that your night is even better :)
At 11:29 AM,
CindyCinlou said…
Okay a outside view. Guys hello never ever ever go after a girls best friend. Next being friends with your ex is way hard. Also if he can't be up front with his girlfriend about you then that is not right. You are a bright beauitful woman demand respect you desever it. Hope things get better!
At 12:19 PM,
Unknown said…
OMG!!! Who are all thesepeople. I need to know!! I am your new blog stalker :)
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